Umm, this might sound really bad, but me and my youth group are reading every young womans battle. And I have two questions.

Is Oral Sex okay after marriage since it's considered a sexual impurity before marriage?

And why is Porn bad? Like I know it is, but really all I know is that my mom and dad say. NO.

Question 1: Is oral sex okay after marriage?

Answer 1: Biblically, I don't have an answer. Before I get married, I plan on figuring that out. My boyfriend is planning on asking our youth minister when we get engaged. Personally, I think it's probably okay. God doesn't say anything against it specifically or even indirectly that I know of so I am assuming it's fine.

Quesion 2: Why is porn bad?

Answer 2: Porn is bad because it makes us lust after others. It causes us to think lustfully about a person or persons and it can even lead into us thinking lustfully about people in our own lives. Also, lust is a mental representation of adultery. The bible says that when if we lust after someone, we have committed adultery with that person in our hearts. (I am assuming that if you're not married it's like fornicating {having illegal or wrongful sex} with that person in your heart).

Is that helpful? Also, is Every Young Woman's Battle a good book? I've been thinking about reading it and I was just wondering.

Yes, it's a very good book. You should read it.

Thank you, that was very helpful. No, I'm not married.

No, I wasn't saying that I thought you were married. I was saying that I assumed that if someone wasn't married, it would be called fornication instead of adultery.

I know, I was agreeing with you.  :/

Oh, okay.

So it's okay to have oral sex? Is that what ur saying?

AFTER you're married, I think so. BEFORE, definitely NOT!

why do you think it's not right? I'm always up for seeing new viewpoints.

okay

The reason why I think it would be fine for married couples is because the Bible says that when 2 get married they become one. (well, after they consumate the marriage they do). Since they are one, I don't see why something like that would be wrong? You are one person and if you both consent to it, why should it be a problem?

...but I don't know everything. Like I said before, it's something that I want to find out for sure before I get married b/c if it isn't okay with God, I don't want to do it.